For me the gap is there, but the gap present is not generation gap, it is a biological gap which cannot be fulfilled in anyways. If we see in India the minimum age of a girl to get married is 18 years and on biological point of view the birth of baby takes 9 months. So, the minimum age gap between mother and child is going to be 19 years and this gap cannot be filled in anyways.
The so-called generation gap is about ‘how’ not about ‘whom’. The gap is more about methodology not about people.
How many times have you felt your parents don’t understand you? They have no respect for you as an individual? How often you shake your head in frustration and blame it on generation gap?
More often right?
When things shift, thoughts shift, perceptions shift, methods shift,
The so-called generation gap cannot be fulfilled but can be bridged. What we have to discover is the way bridging what appears to be the yawning gulf.
I think the main element that work is the necessity of co-existence with parents.
They are like aliens from other planets altogether. We and they are in different camps under the same roof. If we genuinely want to improve our relations with our parents,(and give them a big shock in bargain), try listening to them, treating them just like we would listen to one of our valued friend. We need to be present fully when we are at home.
Instead of always whining, “you don’t understand me”, “you won’t know”, etc stop and think, Do we ever try to understand them? We need to allow them to contribute in our lives at each and every step, at each and every level and at each and every curves of our lives.
Parent are under a lot of stress too. When we are worrying about our upcoming exam they are worrying about the boss in the office. Sometimes they don’t know where all the money is going to come from for all the applications you send to foreign universities. Despite of all these they will never let you down. They are and will always be there to fulfill your dreams and wishes.
Yes, weird though it may sound parents are human too. They may have dreams they have sacrificed because they want you to realize yours. Its like for the one you love you do whatever it takes. That is what our parents do for us.
How many of us have thanked our parents for all this? When you are out on a trip your mother is continuously worried about your well-being. And by any chance she gets a chance to speak to you her first question would be ‘did you have your food?’ but the real question behind that question would be ‘are you safe?’ Parents ask us innumerable questions like ‘where are you going?’, ‘whom are you speaking to?’, who are your friends?’. But behind all these questions there lies one question. ‘Are you happy? hope you are not doing anything wrong, which might hurt your well-being or happiness of your future’. But what we listen is to the earlier questions I said. We never realize the actual meaning of their questions.
There is difference in our interpretation and their meaning and that is ‘Generation Gap’
It is we and only we who can bridge this gap, eliminate this gap, which has created this illusioned image.